My life is like a puzzle with a piece in the wrong place but I can't figure out which piece is misplaced?

How to do that without tearing the whole puzzle a part?My life is like a puzzle with a piece in the wrong place but I can't figure out which piece is misplaced?
Well, if you want to keep up with this extended metaphor, you can just survey the whole puzzle and see which piece doesn't quite look right. Dropping the metaphor, why don't you just examine yourself and your life and try to figure out what you feel like you need to be fulfilled. There probably isn't an easy answer to this question; you probably need to spend a lot of time introspecting to try to find the answer. You don't have to deconstruct your life, but you probably have to try to understand yourself and your place in life, and what would make you happy.





Also, sometimes you can look too closely and things can become blurred and confused. Sometimes you need to step back and stop thinking for the answer to come to you.My life is like a puzzle with a piece in the wrong place but I can't figure out which piece is misplaced?
Somehow the piece of your life that is misplaced has become camoflauged amidst the rest of your life.





1) Somehow you need to find or design a filter(visual or otherwise) that will help you find the piece that is in dissaray.





2) What tools are presently available to you, to help you undergo such detective work? Process of elimination(eliminate all the factors that are a 'fit' in your life, what's left over is the 'misfit'), etc..





3) Is it truly a 'piece' that is misplaced, or is it a piece that is missing? A sublte, but not so difference.... A missing-piece may require you to attend to other matters then the problem at hand, and in your meanderings fate may very well allow you to stumble upon that missing 'piece' where your were least likely to expect it.





4) Brainstorm, as you are, with third-party-objective observers, if friends and family are not of help consider other resources or professionals that may provide insight.





5) Finally is the misplaced-piece a 'thorn in the flesh' so to specak that encourages you to continuously improve your quality of your life... if so, ask yourself ';By finding the 'misplaced' piece of my life be a blessing or curse?';, and what acting on that answer could mean to your long-term-being.





6) Best of Lcuk, in finding or not(heh..heh..) the misplaced piece of your life...
This questions is too abstract to get a specific answer.





But perhaps we should keep the metaphor going. If you were doing a puzzle that had a wrong piece, how would you find the wrong piece without disassembling the whole puzzle? You might look around the puzzle for an area that looked ';off'; (see what areas of your life seem to be missing something, or dysfunctional). Or you might carefully check each and every piece until you found the one that was wrong (go through all the areas of your life and evaluate how you feel about them and what could be improved).





Dropping the metaphor, an easier solution might be to engage yourself in a project or activity that makes you happy. If you enjoy learning, maybe you should read some interesting books or take a new class. If you have an unused talent, use it.





If all else fails, I suggest volunteer work. Spending time with people and seeing lives that are very different from yours is a good way to quickly put your life into perspective and allow you to see what's out of alignment.
I agree exactly with what RJ said in his last paragraph. You need to step back and look at the WHOLE picture and compare it with what it should be. It's hard to be objective about your own life, but it IS the thing that actually works. from the objective viewpoint you will readily see what needs adjusting in your life and be better able to make the needed changes.





Brightest Blessings,


Raji the Green Witch
Looking for the pieces without, when the pieces are within.